The Martyr Man
"...Too much virtue was thus seen as a vice. Perhaps that explains why so many saints end up as martyrs. They are simply too irritating." -The Economist, 21st August 2010
In part I, we've looked at how a "nice guy" would divert in courtship. Type A is usually seen in characters with low self-esteem, who generally do not think that they are good enough for the girl (probably due to physical appearances), and so they devise a different tactic- to be friends first. They come with various methods get closer to you, i.e. requests to be your pet brother. However, type A guys are easy to look out for and avoid whereas type B are the ones who are harder to spot.
Type Bs are the ones who realize that they should just go for the damn bush instead spending so much time beating around it. They understand that in order to win the attention of a lady, they need to look confident, charismatic and intellectual. Plus, a six pack definitely wouldn't hurt. This is the reason why Type Bs are tremendously hard to spot in a social context. They package themselves to be genuine nice guys, and the perfect lover.
Type B guys are also separated by two categories. The Alpha males, easy to distinguished, are commonly known to society as jerks. These men would be on their best behaviour on dates, seem pleasant and agreeable, and some are even able to fake genuine interest in their female counterpart. That is until bedroom activity happens. After which, depending on their date's sexual attractiveness and their prowess in bed, their interest normally wanes and the calls stop coming. These are the Barney Stinsons, Don Juans and Casanovas of society.
These womanizers are only after one thing - sex. And they are easy to identify because they almost always will steer the conversation into that direction, especially after some food and wine. Well, mostly wine.
Beta males are also common, but subtle. The range of these Beta males varies, but they are usually painted as confident, charismatic and charming. Every joke is savvy, every story is animated and every compliment sincere. These individuals are the life of the party, and their personalities are magnetic. When they speak, they leave their audience transfixed and hanging on to their every word. Their life experiences become fodders for their stories and it spans far and wide, from logical insightful to the far-fetched stories that seems uncanny. It's hard to not be attracted to larger than life personas like these.
Of course, I'm not saying that all who possesses such personality traits are type B beta, rather, it is the beta of type B who love to camouflage themselves as such, and it is hard to tell whether or not beneath the charming exterior, a twisted monster lies in wait. However, there is one trait that they cannot elude one with acute observation and sense of perspective, and this trait will surface no matter how they try to hide it.
But first, we shall look at the mechanics of these individuals.
